Calling you in.

Everyday I have to tell my fiancé to shut the closet door.

Our little one bedroom apartment has became a storage unit of all things wedding.

The closet is where I store all of the handmade center pieces and flower arrangements.

I spend countless hours working on so many DIY projects for our wedding that I have temporarly disowned Pinterest.

Needless to say, the closet door never gets shut.

I come home to my flower arrangements scattered all over the apartment; curtsey of Bernie the cat.

Each time this happens I feel a small sense of defeat.

I sit and think "I poured so much effort into saving our money, and you can't shut the fucking closet door?!"

It's so strange to me how the smallest things can leave the biggest impressions.

I get so frustrated, so pissed off.

I react.

But, then I began to think- What if I didn't have someone to remind to close the closet door?

Without that person I would not have a best friend, a fellow foodie, or a midnight dance partner.

You must pick your battles.

You must call them in to talk, instead of calling them out.

See, when you call someone in; it's positive. It already sets the mood for a lighter situation.

When you call someone out; it's negative. The mood is already hostile from the start.

We must choose to respond, instead of reacting.

When something happens that we do not like we are so quick to react.

But, what if we took a minute of two to analyze the situation?

We could respond with something productive; instead of shaming.